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Когда мы смотрим на характеристики взрослого, которого связывают с ребенком отношения избегающей привязанности – отвержение и грубость, – нам не нужно много времени, чтобы проследить связь с основными убеждениями в брошенности, недоверии и насилии, эмоциональной депривации, дефективности и несостоятельности. Характеристики взрослого в ситуации двойственной привязанности – непоследовательность и хаотичность – тоже позволяют без труда связать устоявшиеся представления о себе и ожидания от других с пятью основными убеждениями, о которых идет речь в этой книге.

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